My husband and I have been reading through an amazing book. It's called, "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.
We've known about the different love languages - but this book really puts things into perspective!
Here are the five love languages:
1) Personal Touch and Closeness
2) Quality Time
3) Words of Encouragement
5) Acts of Service
If you aren't sure what your primary love language is, there is a questionnaire you can take in the book.
My hubby is #1 and I am #2. The interesting thing is that we can show love to one another, but if we aren't showing it in the other person's primary love language, it may not be so meaningful to them.
The other great part is that we have realized that our children are old enough to have developed a primary love language! They are not all the same, either. Now we can focus on filling up their love tank, and if we are short on time we can focus on their primary language first. Of course, we all need all five from time to time, but the primary language speaks the loudest to us.
For example, if I know that Ashley's primary love language is Acts of Service here's a scenerio that actually took place.
Ashley was sitting at the dinner table and I had just served the last plate and sat down myself to join the family for dinner. She asked if I could please get her the Katchup, and I responded no she could get it herself (since I had just sat down). She let out a sigh and I realized that her love language was acts of service, so I quickly changed my mind and said, "Actually, I'll be glad to get it for you." With that she lit up and enjoyed the rest of the meal.
For her, my act of service said, "I LOVE YOU!" If she wasn't an Acts of Service person than it would have been nice, but no big deal.
If you haven't read this book, I think you should check to see if there is one at your local library.
I believe that every household should own a copy of this book. I feel so strongly about this that I am going to give 2 copies away! Just leave me a comment between Monday May 11th, and Thursday May 14th and I'll put your name in for a drawing. Then check back on Friday May 15th to see which two people have won.