Monday, September 1, 2008

Building Character

This past week was our first week of homeschooling. It started off really great and everyone seemed to be on task and working diligently. I even began implementing a new program called, Accountable Kids, I'll devote another post entirely to this as it is a fabulous tool for parents.

By the end of the week, we were starting to see some character issues coming out. We woke up Thursday and had the power go out! After several hours of wondering, we gave it up and went out for the rest of the day. I think that episode got us off track. By Friday my kids were struggling to stay on task. It could have been the fact that we had too much sugar while we were out!

My son ended up saying something that was down right mean to my daughter. I was really shocked! We had been working so hard on not saying more than necessary and I thought we were doing great in that area. But there it was, mean words, how do I handle this?

Well, God was so good to me. I sent up an S.O.S. prayer and He allowed me to stay calm. I told my son if he ever said that again the punishment would be swift and painful. He began to cry. My daughter was already crying. I then told him to go to his room and pray about this.

God met him there. He came out of his room a while later and had a repentant heart. He sought forgiveness from his sister, crying while asking her to forgive him. It was a sweet thing for this mom to see. Reconciliation comes from God. His whole being is about reconciliation. I am so grateful that He spoke to my son that day and that He allowed my kids to reconcile.

2 Corinthians 5:18 And all things are of God, who has reconciled us to Himself through Jesus Christ, and has given to us the ministry of reconciliation.

If only adults could reconcile so quickly and lovingly. ??

13 comments:

The Patterson 5 said...

What a wonderful reconcilliation. I am so glad God answered your SOS prayer and interceded for you and again for your son. You showed me an excellent example on how to handle these issues (they come to our house more than I'd like). You prayed first then reacted. Far too often I react then pray second. Thanks for the model of a better way! I am looking forward to hearing about you accountable kids program! Thanks for sharing it is a blessing to us all!

Chatty Kelly said...

Amen, sister! I don't know why kids are often more repentant that adults. Maybe this is what Jesus meant when he said "a little child shall lead them."

You certainly are teaching us a lot today, in how to raise our kids and also in how to change ourselves.

Bonita said...

Obviously, all that work on words paid off when it counted. We all slip, but at least he saw the error of his ways rather quickly. I agree that it would be nice if us adults would do the same!

Sue J said...

CK told me about Accountable Kids, so I bought their book...it's due here very soon. Looking forward to getting something new started here, especially in regards to boosting better character!

Appreciated reading how you handled this. I struggle with the SOS prayer in that situation--which seems ridiculous when I can pray for others mentioned in a prayer E-mail as soon as I read the concern. Clearly, a step of faith issue for me, that He would actually work in that short timeframe.

Looking forward to hearing more from you this week....

Edie said...

Oh what a great story, and so much to learn from it for when my grandaughters are here.

First the SOS which I don't always think of as quickly as I should.

Then "go to your room to pray". This made me realize that I don't give either the girls, or God enough credit for doing their parts in this. Conviction felt here. I repent.

I love that your son did pray and that God did speak to him in a way that he heard. This was beautiful.

Julie Gillies said...

I LOVE it when the Holy Spirit clearly shows our kids the truth!

We're in our 4th week of school here, (it's sooo hot in August so we get busy early) and I'm down to my last student. So, while I don't have to deal with arguments between siblings, I have a VERY talkative 8th grader on my hands. LOL

Starr said...

Yep, we can learn so much from our kids. They let things go much easier that we adults do.
Love,
Starr

On Purpose said...

Our best teachers in life are our children!

Charlene Kidd said...

Thanks so much for visiting my blog. I absolutely love all that you are sharing. Have a wonderful day, and it has been a blessing to meet you too.
Charlene

Rebecca Ingram Powell said...

Aren't you so grateful for homeschooling? It gives us so many opportunities and thousands of teachable moments!

Sarah Martin said...

Thank you for visiting my blog. It was cool to meet someone new! My hat is off to you for homeschooling-I know your children are going to benefit greatly from it.

I would love to hear about your Accountable Kids program. I have a 3 month old-too young to make him accountable :) ha ha But, it is never too early to start reading up!

have a great week!
love, sarah

Debra said...

I have seen so much in our son that I am sure is a result of homeschooling him all the way through. We are amazed at his sense of being his own person, his security in our love, his self-assured, without being snobby, way of handling situations. Not to mention his very acute way of feeling out who people are deep inside, and seeing worth in everyone. I really can't say enough for homeschooling, and all you moms and dads that are still plugging away at it. Keep on!! You will look back someday when the last one is graduated, and you will be so proud. You are doing a fine thing for your children and their future.
Love, Debra

Angela said...

What a great blog- I jumped here from Island School house- I will be back!